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peace·ful

adj.

  1. Undisturbed by strife, turmoil, or disagreement; tranquil. See Synonyms at calm.
  2. Inclined or disposed to peace; peaceable.
  3. Of or characteristic of a condition of peace.

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"Worry is appropriate only if there is the potential of harm; a feeling of peacefulness only if there is actual safety...."

 

Stan Cox

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peace....In its purest form, peace is inner silence filled with the power of truth. Peace is the prominent characteristic of what we call ‘a civilized society,’ & the character of a society can be seen thru the collective consciousness of its members.

 

The challenge to peace normally presents itself in the question,

 

"Are human beings by nature violent or nonviolent?"

 

If the answer is violent, then the concept of peace becomes nonexistent. Peace has become so illusive that people have begun to question its existence. Peace of mind has become a popular cliché, but what does that mean?

 

Peace is energy, a qualitative energy which emanates constantly from the One imperishable source. It's a pure force that penetrates the shell of chaos & by its very nature automatically puts things & people into balanced order.

 

The self is a reservoir of vital resources, one of which is peace. To recognize the original quality of the human soul as peace is to stop searching outside for peace. Thru connection with the One eternal & unlimited source of peace, our own reservoirs overflow with silent strength.

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In its purest form, peace is inner silence filled with the power of truth.

 

Peace consists of:

When the energy of thought, word & action is balanced, stable & nonviolent, the individual is at peace with the self, in relationships & with the world.

 

To exercise the power of peace embraces the fundamental principle of spirituality:

 

look inward in order to look outward with courage, purpose & meaning.

 

The first step in that process takes careful examination of one’s thoughts, feelings & motives. By opening the window of the inner self, individuals are able to clarify & pinpoint attitudes & behavior patterns which are destructive, causing chaos & peacelessness.

 

People say in one breath that they want peace of mind & in the next breath they say hurtful things. Wasteful gossip spreads peacelessness, as does anger. Peacelessness initially begins with a few angry, forceful thought which are then expressed in words & in some instances escalate into uncontrolled proportions of violence.

 

People say they want peace in the world, but what kind of peace do they desire?

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People ask for peace, but whose responsibility is that?

 

Can anyone who remains peaceless be an instrument for peace?

 

Authenticity of action depends on authenticity of person. Today, policymakers are dedicated to making, building & keeping peace. A tremendous amount of human resources & research is invested in establishing world peace.

 

Even prizes are given to people for their work toward peace. Emphasis is placed on the value of peace precisely because of the great peacelessness that exists & which has infiltrated our lives far deeper than we care to admit.

 

In its most common form, peacelessness can be felt as stress & pressure due to family, work, social & other obligations. In its more serious condition, peacelessness is manifested in breakdowns, addictions, abuse, crime, emotional imbalances & psychosomatic ailments.

 

While medical science has helped relieve symptoms of stress & psychology has contributed toward understanding the psyche, there continues a genuine search for a functional & empowering spirituality which can produce within the individual a calm & feeling relaxed, relaxation feelings state of mind.

 

The inner qualities & thought power of human beings are fast being feeling recognized, recognizing feelings as tools to deal with the world & its growing demands.

 

Health is being examined from a holistic perspective, partnering both physical & spiritual energies in the process of healing. Even when physical health is maintained, spiritual resources are being tapped to enhance coping skills & interpersonal relations.

 

The promise of peace gives hope, but like a piece of quicksilver, it sometimes seems slippery & evasive. We're at a crossroads of human civilization.

 

On one hand, things are rapidly disintegrating. That's made bitterly apparent by wars, civil strife, riots, ethnic cleansing & so on.

 

However, on the other hand, an almost invisible integration involving alternatives & possibilities is putting the pieces together. Bringing peace back into the social, economic, political & other fibers of society would require looking at peace from 2 levels:

  • the external 
  • the internal

Peace education, conflict resolution & all peace initiatives must take seriously the critical connection between individual & world peace. Programs & projects must include an emphasis on individual peace, offering proactive & practical means to peace, beginning with the first step of knowing the inner self.

 

Peace is the foundation, the major building block upon which a healthy, functional society stands.

 

Peace is the prominent characteristic of what we call "a civilized society" & the character of a society can be seen thru the collective consciousness of its members.

 

A civilization can be heaven or hell depending on the consciousness of its members. Consciousness creates culture - its norms, values & systems & consciousness can transform culture.

 

Ultimately, when all minds are focused & stabilized on the One imperishable source of peace & synchronized throughout the world, the reverberation of peace emitted from the silence will echo, "WORLD PEACE IS DECLARED!"

 

"Peace must begin with each one of us. Through quiet & serious reflection on its meaning, new & creative ways can be found to foster understanding, friendships & cooperation among all peoples."

 

Mr. Javier Perez De Cuellar, Secretary-General of the United Nations, September, 1986

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Peace

 

Finding Peace by Choosing Surrender

The right kind of sorrow teaches us that real danger doesn’t lie in letting others into our heart. Danger is found in being like the abused dog that impulsively bites or runs from anyone who gets too close.

 

The same is true of our relationship with God. It's dangerous to fearfully resist Him. But safety is found by drawing near to Him.

 

"Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted," Jesus said, "Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth" (Matt. 5:5).

 

In other words, they're to be envied who don't resist & rebel against God. To be congratulated are those who surrender themselves to His care & protection.

 

This is the meek spirit of the prodigal who having "seen the light" in the mess of his own choices & broken relationships chooses to turn his heart toward the Father's house (Luke 15:11-32).

 

It's the rebellious child who returns w/no greater request than to be a servant in His Father's house. This is the submissive attitude that gives a loving Father reason to celebrate!

 

Even though victims of sexual abuse may have accepted Christ as Savior many years ago, they must continually surrender to Him in the circumstances & damage of their emotional turmoil.

 

If you find such surrender difficult, think again of the One who is asking for your trust. He understands your pain, because He too was a victim. He suffered unimaginable crimes against nature. He knew what it meant to bear the shame of others.

 

He knew what it meant to be alone, naked, bleeding in the darkness as He pathetically cried, "My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?" (Mark 15:34).

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No one better understands what it means to suffer under the weight of someone else's sin. No one better understands what it means to bear someone else's shame. No one better understands what it meant to suffer in the darkness while God & all of the angels of heaven remained silent.

 

It’s just as true that no one better understands God's ability to help us. Three days later, this victim of our sin rose from the dead to live His life thru all who in surrender would trust Him.

 

Victims who submissively surrender themselves to Christ, not only for their salvation but for daily cares, protection & change, will find themselves on a path of peace w/God. They’ll see the darkness of victimization change to the first dawning light of freedom & hope.

 

It must be remembered that biblical change thru the right kind of sorrow & surrender will seem very dangerous to someone who’s already felt so much pain. But the risk is an illusion. The process actually awakens in victims a passion for life.

 

By bringing an end to wasted struggles, it increases their energy level. By bringing them to a place of strength & personal safety, it frees them to become concerned about others. Those who have mourned to a point of being comforted by God will find that comfort received turns into comfort given.

 

Thru sorrow & surrender, God will bring about changes that will begin to bring peace to the heart & restore the identity, purpose & passion lost in the feelings of powerlessness, betrayal, confusion & rejection.

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Creating Peace Within
Author: Debbie Milam

As we continue to live a world with conflict, war & violence, I want to share a slightly different perspective for understanding what we're experiencing. I believe that we're on the brink of something truly amazing. None of us know how peace will manifest itself. The vision I hold is that we are a moment away from creating a world safe for our children, their children & all generations to follow.

We now have a divine opportunity to find peace within ourselves & bring that peace to others. We have an extraordinary chance to shift our perspective, open up our hearts & live life to the fullest. I witnessed this as I watched many of my relatives during the dying process.

As they faced their mortality they taught me a very powerful lesson. None of us know when our last day on earth will be, but for the days we've been blessed with, live them to the fullest.

With this in mind, revel in the beauty that surrounds you, focus on love & live every moment to the utmost. To create peace within yourself, let go of the should-do’s & have-to’s in your life & allow your passion, your authentic self to emerge.

What's important now is making time to hold your children, to lie in the arms of your significant other, to be kind, to pray, to tell the people in your life how important they are & to connect to the beauty of the earth.

To create peace, live life like you never lived it before. Love without end & carry others to the light thru compassion & prayer. Say, “I love you” as often as possible & forgive those who you hold in grievance. Each moment you are given is truly a gift; fill these precious moments with reverence, awe & love. For then you'll have learned to create peace.

Finally, for those of you who are walking a spiritual path, you know that the soul work you're doing has prepared you perfectly for this precise moment in time. The exquisite transformation you're experiencing is for a higher purpose.

Your voice, your actions & your intentions will inspire & heal so many. May you have the courage to speak your truth, the integrity to live your life fully, the vision of a world of extraordinary possibilities & may we all know peace on earth.

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I think that people want peace so much that one of these days governments had better get out of the way and let them have it.
 
President Dwight David Eisenhower

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Peaceful Parenting

On a recent early winter morning we decided to take a family walk outside, in a wooded setting, with our 3 young children. The morning is crisp with a dusting of snow sprinkled among the crunchy leaves. We all are adorned with colorful soft hats, gloves & rubber boots.

Almost as soon as we begin, one of our sons complains about walking too far, followed by our daughter's moans that her toes are cold. We move on, knowing from experience that nature will ultimately win them over.

And as we enter a wooded area of giant pines the mood quickly changes, as the magic of the forest casts its spell. All 3 children are bouncing about collecting pine cones, twigs & leaves, jumping in the puddles & watching the swans glide along the small body of water.

Our daughter caught sight of a white-tailed rabbit as we darted among the dripping vines.

As we return to the car the gentleness of the natural world stays with us all. But not for long: we've committed to attending a birthday party at a children's pizza restaurant. 

We step into birthday land & the energy is jarring. The place screams of over-stimulation as all our senses are assaulted by a multimedia cacophony of intensity. After 2 hours, the kids are frantic & scattered.

The parents all seem exhausted & tense.

We watch the hyped-up kids eat cake & it's time to open gifts. We see a young child frantically opening presents, barely stopping to look at one before ripping into the next one on the pile. We believe that children young & old have a yearning for celebration & ritual that has a deeper meaning than an endless series of brand-name toys.

But that yearning must be nurtured & brought out in people. We also know that many people are paid lots of money with the clear goal of creating insatiable little consumers, with distinct brand preferences, in children 3 years old or less.

The contrast between both our nature walk & this birthday party brought to our attention the emptiness we often raise our children in.

Despite the obvious raising of consciousness in our world, as parents we constantly face cultural messages which say that more is better, bigger is better, louder is better, faster is better, instant is better & mindless is better.

As hurried, harried, tired parents, how can we create a peaceful, mindful space for our children to grow & learn?

One important way we have found to shut off the noise is to remove TV from your home. TV is the main medium thru which the consumer values of our culture are transmitted.

Also, when children are watching TV, they're NOT doing a host of other valuable activities such as playing, learning, creating & moving their bodies. While watching TV, our children would become so entranced that nothing else existed. Turning it off resulted in screaming fits of anger & despair.

So we decided to try life without TV. To our great amazement, the children adjusted very easily. Now they draw, talk, paint, make buildings, sing, dance & read books instead of blindly staring at a box. They watch one video a week, which has become a special event rather than the daily power struggle it used to be.

Of course this requires more parental thought, attention & planning than using the video baby-sitter, but the results are well worth the effort. And now we don't worry about the amount of violence they're exposed to or if the material is appropriate or keeping track of the number of hours they're watching the box.

In other ways, as parents we can find peace & begin to nurture it in our families. Evaluate the number of activities your child is involved in. Take control & be selective. Ask yourself, does this add to our family's peace or not?

Keeping a predictable schedule is another way to create peace. Pay attention to the rhythms of the child & the family. Since children crave familiarity & regularity, be conscious of having a normal routine they can count on...school followed by quiet time, snack, dinner, baths, story time.

Even on vacations, following the rhythm & predictability creates peace.

Celebrating the ordinary with rituals helps create peace & meaning. Try to make dinner a sacred time. Take enough time & eliminate the rush. Light a dinner candle, have special place mats, cloth napkins, & centerpieces made from your nature collections in your yard or parks.

Cultivate appreciation & gratitude by allowing each child to give thanks for one thing they're grateful for on that day. 

Reconnect with the great spirit of nature. Our family makes it a goal to go outside almost daily, no matter what the weather.  Keeping their appreciation alive for this Earth plants a seed for their future care of her.

We also feel it's important to keep celebrations simple, from birthdays to holidays, resisting the temptation that more & bigger is better. Limit the number of gifts!  Pay attention to the power of simple things like candles, songs & stories. 

The ritual of reading & storytelling is another way to deepen our connection with each other & awaken curiosity & imagination in children.

Of course, it's so easy to lose balance & give in to the larger cultural values screaming at you. But our children are so vulnerable & tender & need our guidance in creating a meaningful, sustainable life of depth & substance.

Let's embrace the challenges of our families together & be pioneers into a new family creation that embraces peaceful parenting.

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Six Steps To Unleashing The Peace Within - By Chris Le Roy

We live in a hectic & uncertain world, with violence & chaos surrounding us every minute of the day. We are getting busier & busier & being bombarded with commercialism & adverts from every angle.

Just like many of us I've been looking for a way to break the constant information overload to help give my mind a chance to relax & after many years of studying & test trying the art of meditation by many of the great religions like Budhism I have found a simple 6 step formula that helps me to unleash the inner peace that really wishes to come out.

Step 1 - Find a cool quiet place

The first step in unleashing your inner peace is to find somewhere that will allow you to feel safe whilst meditating & undisturbed. Some of the sorts of places you might consider are sitting on the ground in the garden, near a river, or if you're like me & bound to the city, simply sitting in your lounge room will suffice. There are though a few key things that you must consider -

There should be little traffic noise

There is Nothing worse than to just start meditating to hear the sound of the air brakes on a truck going off or an ambulance or police car going past.

Be Free From Distractions

When you first start meditating you'll find it maybe difficult to get started but with a little practice & that's the fun part, you'll find over time that you'll get better at it but in the early stages a little distraction from your children or noise can make it very difficult.

You Must Feel Safe

With today's society being the way that it is, you must have a sense of well being before starting your meditation. If you have a sense of insecurity you'll find that it's very difficult to release your anxieties & most importantly your thoughts.

Be Comfortable

Most meditation periods usually will last around 20 minutes. When you first start off you may find that it takes a good 10 minutes to get to a point of being relaxed so make sure that you sit on a comfortable surface before starting the meditation process. I'm a great believer in sitting on the floor however if you find it difficult to sit upright for any period of time, simply sit against the wall.

Doing this can also help you with your sense of feeling safe. If you find it more comfortable sitting in a chair, try your meditation that way. I don't recommend sitting on a couch simply because you run the risk that you may fall asleep & whilst that's great before going to bed, it isn't recommended as the outcome to the meditation process. 

Step 2 - Use a Light Incense

Depending on where you are, you may find that a light incense will help you break thru the barriers when you first start meditating. If you're like me & are constantly on the rush & stressed, when you first stop you might find that it's really difficult to focus on your meditation because of the buzz running thru your blood so using a light incense like lavendar can certainly help.

You can purchase incense from any number of stores like chinese food stores, oriental food stores or even some of the mystics stores & there are certainly many places on the web where you can purchase a light incense.

Be warned though that it's illegal in some countries to buy incense via mail order & more so only buy from a reputable dealer as you never know what you could be importing.

Step 3 - Put some quiet music on

The saying, "Music Soothes the Savage Beast" is never a more truer statement then when trying to find your inner world of peace. Playing some quiet music will certainly help soothe the buzz you have after a hard day but be very cautious on the type of music you choose. You need to ensure you choose music that will slow you down rather than increase your heart rate.

Many meditation gurus will recommend music like flowing water, a rushing stream or the sounds of the great outdoors, which will all certainly be suitable for this process but what I find the most useful is music from the Baroque period.

The music from this period has particular elements that make it suitable & more conjucent to helping you find that inner peace.

Baroque music is built on 60 beats per minute, which funnily enough is the same as what our hearts should be doing. What some research has shown is that listening to music that has 60 beats per minute actually increases the alpha waves that cause calmness on both the left & right side of the brain.

The outcome of this is that you'll become calm & relax, similar to if you whistled a tune. Research has also shown that this "alpha state" can help in your learning process, creativity & more importantly becoming more calm.

Step 4 - Focus on Your Breathing. Breath In & Out

Now that we have the elements we need to meditate, it's now time for you to try . My preferred way to sit when I meditate is to cross my legs & to place my hands on my knees with my open palms up. If you can't cross your legs simply sit with your legs layed out flat. If you're sitting in a chair, simply spread your leg apart a little & place your hands on your knees.

The next step in the path towards peace is to close your eyes & to breath in deeply & then slowly exhale the air. You need to consistently repeat this process but whilst you're doing this, there are a few important things to remember.

When you first start to meditate you'll find that as you relax, the things that bothered you during the day will start to resurface & come to the forefront of your mind & we need to stop this during your meditation period because if you don't, you can end up being more stressed then when you started. Whilst you're breathing, simply look into the depths of the darkness & clear you mind.

If you're finding it difficult to let go, try this technique. Whilst breathing in slowly, concentrate in your minds eye on the number 1 & focus on the number as you exhale. Then as you take your 2nd breath, change the number 1 to a number 2 & then focus on the number 2 & maintain that focus as you exhale.

With each new breath, focus on the next number. However, if at any time your focus gets away from you & you start thinking about making dinner or what you're going to do tomorrow, then simply restart from the number one. You'll find that after a while using this process will really help you to maintain that focus & start to bring out that inner peace a lot quicker.

If you're having difficulty sleeping I find that using the counting process & the breathing process really helps a lot. Once again it does take time to master the technique but the more you practice the better you'll get at it.

Step 5 - Clear Your Mind

Once you have mastered the process of breathing & getting into a relaxed state, the next stage is to clear your mind. This can take a little bit of work & will take a while to conquer but when you do conquer it, you'll really no what inner peace is. To clear your mind, you'll simply not think of anything but just exhist. The key to clearing your mind is to focus on the space around you (whilst your eyes are closed) without thinking about a thing.

When you do this, an overwhelming sense of peace will come over your. You'll find that the endorphins will give you a tingling feeling thru out your body & you'll be extremely calm. You'll find as time goes on that you can in fact turn the tingling on at your own will but that comes with practice.

Step 6 - Feel the Rush of Peace


The Budhists talk of meditating to reach enlightenment & whilst it can take a life time or two to achieve that, I can certainly say that when you do get to that point where you have let go of your surroundings & you're at peace its certainly feels like a whole new world. At the very least, not being stressed & feeling that constant buzz caused by the pressures of our day-to-day lives, will certainly give you a new definition of normal.


When you feel that your time for meditation is over, slowly allow your mind to start to think. You'll find that its actually a lot easier than you think. Then slowly open your eyes & become more aware of your surroundings. Give yourself a good 5 minutes before you rush to get up but when you do, you should feel a sense of calm & peace around your body, mind & soul.

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The MOST Important thing YOU can do to manifest World Peace - By Lisa Hepner

Here it is, it’s very simple...The most important thing YOU can do to manifest World Peace is… believe PEACE.

What? What does that mean, believe PEACE? “You mean to tell me that all I have to do is believe Peace & Peace will be my reality? You mean I don’t have to do anything like write my Representatives, participate in a Peace Rally, etc?”

If you choose to do those things, fine. But those things aren't needed to manifest World Peace.

In fact, sometimes, some of these activities perpetuate the “problem.” Anytime, anyone gets into attack / defense or support / non-support mode that creates separation instead of Unity. Peace is about Unity. Peace is about acknowledging our Oneness, our Connection. Mother Teresa said,

“If there is no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to one another.” (More on this concept later.)

Peace is an inner stillness, quietness, or love that is NOT dependent on outer circumstances. Before we get into the details of this concept, we must start at the beginning, which is a very core concept.

All motivational / success materials claim that you must have an “END” result in mind, in order to achieve anything. If we think about it now, anything that is in the physical form, began with an idea; a clear vision. So it is with peace.

Most people don't even have a concept of what peace is. What is Peace? Is it having no weapons or bombs, it's having no gangs, is it being in a supportive work environment, is it not having an argument with a spouse, is it a moment in nature?

We must have a clear vision of what “peace” means to us. I'd encourage each & every one of us to clarify that vision. It's the starting point for believing PEACE.

(At the website www.peacefulearth.org, there is a section titled “What is Peace?” It's a poem about the reflections of peace. I'd encourage you to listen to it & meditate on it & then print the one page word document titled “What is Peace?” & write down your vision of peace.)


Now that we have a vision of peace, we're able to move to the next step of actually BELIEVING PEACE.

To understand this concept fully, we must start with some basic information. Do you believe that your “inner” thoughts or beliefs create your “outer” experience?

If you said, “no”, let’s explore this concept. In Physics there's the concept that there's no difference between observer & observed. Meaning that the “observed” changes, depending on the perception, stance, orientation of the “observer.”

Another way of saying this is that, what we “see” is reflected back to us. If we “see” peace in the world, peace will be reflected back to us. Our inner thoughts & perceptions are reflected back to us.

It reminds me of this wonderful story I heard about a Hall of Mirrors. There was this hall of mirrors. It was covered with mirrors. There were mirrors on all the walls, on the ceiling & on the floor. One day a dog, entered this Hall of mirrors & immediately became defensive & angry when he saw himself surrounded by all these other dogs.

The dog started to growl & bark. As he barked & snarled, all the other dogs barked & snarled back. The dog barked louder & louder & became more viscous. The other dogs became just as viscous. The dog eventually died of exhaustion trying to fend off the other dogs.

Then there was this monk, who entered the hall. He noticed all the other peaceful looking monks around him. He smiled & all the other monks smiled back at him. He was so ecstatic to see himself surrounded by all these wonderful beings that he at that point in time reached enlightenment.

What do you see in the world?

If you choose to “see” peace, you'll create the world you see.

Some of you may still ask, how can I really “see” peace in the world, when I turn on the television & see war & violence, or when I read the paper about pending war? This is a good question.

I'd like to address this question from different perspectives. The process of “seeing” & “believingpeace is available to us thru acknowledging a Presence of peace thru Prayer or Faith.

Presence is Beingness, God, Buddha, Allah, the Divine, Mother, Father, Energy, Consciousness, Infinite, Power, or whatever you choose to call “it” that makes up the Universe & is inherent in each & every one of us. We're all beings of “energy,” that same “energy” that created the Universe. Wayne Dyer said it best when he said, “we're spiritual beings, having a human experience.”

We're spiritual beings, housed in a human shell. But we're more than the human shell we live in. We are eternal. As spiritual beings, our essence is love.

Prayer, as it's referred to here, is an acknowledgement of the Truth of who we are, beyond outer experiences. And Faith, is a belief in the inherent goodness or desired outcome, no matter what the appearance. I like the saying that “prayer doesn’t change God, prayer changes YOU.”

Prayer is just focused attention on God & God qualities, (or the Ultimate Truth.)

Situations such as war, violence, hatred, illness are human manifestations. They're situations that occur in this human form. But they're not who we are. There is an “essence” of us that is good, that is love, that is at the very core of our “experience.”

The way we change our “experience” is by bringing our attention back to our true “essence.” By focusing on that which is True. That which is never changing.

Einstein said that, “you can’t solve a problem from the same level of thinking that created the problem.”

Again, war & violence are problems that arise at the human level of form. Meeting them at the level of human form will not solve the problem; only a shift in consciousness, or awareness of our Essence, will transform the situation.

Again this takes us back to believing Peace. Trusting & knowing the Truth for each & every one of us.

No matter what is going on externally, there's still a potential, a Truth, at the core of your Being that IS peace. It can't be touched or changed by any outer circumstance. And that's the Truth of Who you Are.

Instead of “fighting” a situation or trying to “make” something happen. Shine the light of Truth into that situation. I do this thru Prayer, but many do this thru Faith.

Alan Cohen, in my book Peaceful Earth: Spiritual Perspectives on Inner Peace and World Peace, shares a powerful story about the role of the Faithkeeper.

In Native American tradition, one person is assigned the role of Faithkeeper. The Faithkeeper basically keeps the “faith” for the entire village no matter what's going on externally.

So basically, during times of illness, drought, poverty, famine & disease, it's the Faithkeeper’s job to keep the “faith” that the crops are flourishing, that the rains are coming, that the village is healthy. The Faithkeeper silently prays & “knows” the good for the entire village. The Faithkeeper keeps the “high watch.” This is what we are being called to do NOW.

To be Faithkeepers in Peace. So that no matter what's going on on the outside like threats of war, we're keeping the “faith” in the inherent goodness & peace of all people.

I'd like to offer some food for thought. James Twyman, a PeaceMaker, has taken a group of individuals & is teaching them how to bend spoons with their minds!

I've participated in a fire walk & walked across 2000 degree Fahrenheit hot coals! There have been countless documented cases of supposed medical “miracles” where people healed themselves, by the belief that they were healed.

If things like this are possible by focusing our attention on the desired outcome, why wouldn’t we believe that peace is possible by focusing our attention on it & believing it to be so?

In the Bible it says, “Whatever you ask for in prayer with faith, you will receive.” Mathew 21:22

Another important aspect of believing peace, is “Being” peace. All of what we have talked about to this point has been about manifesting peace, by shifting YOUR awareness to the Presence of peace.

It's important to understand that World peace begins with YOUR peace! Everything we have mentioned up until now, has been about shifting your attention to peace, thru Prayer or Faith, to that of believing peace.

It’s been about your individual expression of peace, having a collective effect. But, do we really believe that an individual can affect change at a global level?

We’ve all heard the story about the 100th monkey, where monkeys on an island in Japan started washing their sweet potatoes in the stream, then once a critical amount of monkeys who were doing this, was reached, scientists observed that monkeys on other islands, were doing the same thing. There was no communication between the monkeys on the other islands. How can this be explained?

There has been documented scientific & medical data about the affects of one person on a group or groups of people. (Power vs. Force, by David Hawkins, MD & Energy Medicine by Donna Eden to name a few.)

But we don’t necessarily need to read the data to see the results. We witness the energetic effects of individuals on others everyday. For example, have you ever known a coworker that was really high strung & over-stressed?

Maybe they talked 50 miles an hour, were constantly running, doing one hundred things at once, were very fast paced, etc. Have you ever noticed that after being around them or in their presence that when you left, you had to tell yourself, “wait a minute, slow down?” You got into that energy.

Or have you ever known someone who was so peaceful, so fully present that you just wanted to be around them. And after leaving their presence, you felt more peaceful & centered?

These are examples of the energetic effects we have on other people, by our Presence. Sometimes, when we hear someone on television talking about the fear of war, we get in that energy and become fearful ourselves. These are all energetic effects.

I believe that the most important thing that we can do to manifest World Peace is to believe Peace. We can only believe Peace if we have a concept of peace. And it’s about bringing MY awareness back to that of peace. Now this is often a PRACTICE. Sometimes it’s not easy, living in this human body, with this human experience to see or believe peace.

Sometimes there are things that I may need to DO to BE peace Ultimately, the goal is to “Be” peace, but there are often things I need to Do in order to “Be” peace.

Therefore I've created a TOP 10 list of things each & every one of us can “DO” to bring peace, our true essence to every situation in our lives. This list contains the results of responses from people all over via the Internet, book-signings and speaking engagements.

I know that I needed to bring peace to relationships in my life that didn’t FEEL too peaceful.believing the Ultimate goal is to be at peace, so that no one, no “thing” can affect that which is YOU. NO outer experience can affect that peace.

Gandhi said that “Peace, to be real, must be unaffected by outer circumstances.”

One simple technique that I have used & developed to consciously FOCUS on peace is the Peace Prize. It's a TOOL that keeps me FOCUSED on peace. If you haven’t gotten your FREE peace prize, please do so now by going to www.peacefulearth.org.

It's a spiritual truth that what we LOOK for EXPANDS.

The Peace Prize is an award given to people who are kind or peaceful. It's a way to provide positive feedback & encourage kind acts. But more importantly, it's become a tool to “Look” for peace! It's easy to focus on war or violence, when we listen to the media.

Yet it's also just as easy to shift our attention or focus to peace! Let’s train our minds to focus on the peace & therefore increase the Presence of Peace in the world!

One last suggestion: In my prayers I use visualizations & affirmations.

I like to see our President & representatives surrounded by love & peace. I like to affirm the Truth that they're guided to & make decisions from a place of peace & love. I like to see our “perceived” enemies as feeling & knowing the love.

I like to visualize sending love to them & that they're transformed by the power of love. I see all my relationships in my life as opportunities to express love.

I remind myself what a Course in Miracles says, “everything is love or a call for love.” I also affirm that I know the Truth, that regardless of what something “appears” to be, I claim the Truth.

Sometimes if I can’t see it or feel it, I still affirm that even though “such & such” is happening, I know that there's peace at the center of it.

There's love at the very core.

Let’s take on the Role of Faithkeeper right now & shift our energy & consciousness to that of absolutely KNOWING & believing Peace, which is the Truth of each & every one of us!!!

Peace, The Balm To Soothe Troubled Lives And Times
By Phyllis Reid
 
In his masterpiece, “Man’s Search for Meaning,” Viktor Frankl writes, “Every age has its own collective neurosis and every age needs its own psychotherapy to cope with it.” There is a collective neurosis in our world today, it is the cry for peace emanating from individuals, groups, communities and nations, impacting the mass consciousness.

The cries and marches for peace, power and freedom that marked recent decades, present a backdrop for today’s human conditions of stress, anxiety, insecurity and turmoil. There are as many civil wars and wars between nations. From the individual perspective, the cry for peace is heralded as respite from the turbulence of today’s hectic lifestyle. In the past four to five decades we have lived in such a way as to create challenging situations in our lives and create even more havoc as we try to solve the resulting problems.

There is a popular bumper sticker that states, “Peace begins within,” and a hymn that is sung in thousands of churches world-wide on Sundays, “Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me.” Yes, peace begins within the heart and mind of every person. Until we reignite the flame of peace, love and unity there can be no lasting peace in individuals, among people and nations of the world.

Frankl, who lived a life shaped by war, states that, “Man is questioned by life and he can only answer to life by answering to his own life, to life he can only respond by being responsible.” The question of whether or not we have lived responsibly in recent decades, has spawned national and international debates.
 
With the widely reported impending consequences of global warming, catastrophes of war and economic collapses, the outlook is bleak. These impact the human condition as they are fed in large daily doses at breakfast, dinner and all throughout the day. Conditions of fear, stress, anger, frustration, rage, insecurity and strife are the results.

For individuals to have lasting peace they must live their lives from the inside out. This idea might send off alarm bells with shouts of hogwash. Well, let us see how real this is and how easily it can be accomplished. “Be in the world but not of the world” was prescribed by one of the great enlightened spiritual minds, eons ago. Is this possible you may ask, I dare to say it

To the degree that we become caught up in the dictates and excesses of the outside world, is the extent to which we will experience chaos and turbulence and lack inner peace.

I had first hand experience of this two decades ago. For a while I worked as a journalist and it is a well known fact that the profession is demanding and can be stressful. My publisher and editor was an excess living, driven workaholic, who was always in conflicts, off deadlines and antagonistic to life and everyone in it. He would often ask me how I remained so calm and in control, “Nothing seems to bother you,” he would state.
 
My response was always the same, “Be in the world but not of the world.” He was fascinated by the idea and wanted to know how I accomplish that. He had no knowledge of spiritual matters and showed no interest in learning. He later became an appendage who watched, studied and leaned on me for answers and solutions. Years later he became feeble, sick and broken.

Stress is a natural response to the excesses that overwhelm our physical and emotional capabilities and life. The real or reality of us lies within us. Strength, courage, peace and power all emanate from within. Our minds that create the thoughts that become things are within us. The learned and great apostle Paul admonished us not to conform to the world but to be transformed by the renewing of our mind, that we may prove what is the good, acceptable and perfect will of God.
 
He knew over zealousness, rejection, defeat and triumph, but through renewal of his mind, he left us a legacy in spiritual transformation. When we conform to the world we allow the dictates of the world and its appearances to control our lives. The real of man is spiritual and divine, not the ego driven personality that responds to the whims and fancies of every Tom, Dick and Harry. Stress and conflict occur when the inner spiritual self and its outer personality self are in opposing viewpoints.

Frankl theorizes that mans search for meaning is a primary force in his life which is unique and specific in that it must and can be fulfilled by him alone. Our greatness as human beings lies in our ability to change our minds and the conditions of our lives. What is so great about living in a free, democratic country is that it affords us the privilege of freedom to be all we want to be.
 
Individually we must desire freedom and make the choice for freedom as we live our life. The great author and self help guru, Stuart Wilde, teaches that we should “Concentrate on ourselves and leave the world alone. As we strengthen ourselves we save all of humanity, because we are all linked to one another.”

We must desire a change from the stress and turbulent lifestyle we live today. We must dare to rise up, declare, pursue and claim peace for ourselves. This will impact the lives of family and friends and spread out to our communities and our world.

The pursuit of peace is perhaps the most followed path to spiritual enlightenment. A peaceful disposition calms the rough and tossed seas of turbulence, strife, fear and discontent.

The book, “Anchor in the spirit as God Beings - More than Mere Human,” is presented as an easy to follow guidebook for spiritual transformation. It clearly sets out the conditions that support transformation and offers major tools that will help achieve it.

The aim is a changed consciousness by acknowledging the need for change and practicing and living a lifestyle that foster peace, confidence, love and compassion within ourselves. This we then radiate out to touch the lives of others and transform our world. Individually transformed lives will create a mass consciousness of peace and there will be peace on earth, beginning with every one of us.

What better time than now, to reignite the flame of peace, love and unity within the hearts and minds of persons and radiate it person to person to blanket our world. It begins with one person, one step at a time, let your new year commitment be to take that first step.


Author's Bio: Phyllis Reid is a Clinical Social Worker who works as a Psychotherapist with inner city children and their families. She is the author of the book, Anchor in the Spirit as God Beings, More than Mere Human and can be contacted at www.Philmar2000.com

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Peace in the Family: Creating a Non-Threatening Home Environment

 

Parents want ideas about keeping peace in the family & ask how to teach peace & other important family values to their children. The truth is, everyone knows the important things we need to do each day that teach values. We just need to do them.

 

Keeping & teaching peace in the family & communicating values is something that you do every day. Creating a non-threatening home environment allows individuals to talk about the things that are the most important to each person.

 

There's been research on protecting children from the impact of violence, about how to teach resistance to violence & effects of direct & indirect violence on children. Researchers agree that healthy & well-adjusted children need homes that decrease the exposure & direct experience of violence.

 

To have a peaceful family, the family has to believe in peace. To communicate & reinforce the values that parents & adults in the home think are important, it's critical to have a peaceful family with relationships that are respected.

 

Values aren't taught to children by talking about them. Research on development confirms the integration of values thru relationships, observation & demonstration. Children learn to be nice by having someone be nice to them.

 

They learn to be peaceful & non-violent by having other people demonstrate what it is to be peaceful. The home is the most important place for a child. It's within the home that the most important values are taught.

 

Knowing the values that a family cherishes helps increase harmony & peace among all family members. An essential part of family life is to reflect on what's valued in the family. Children aren't confused when they understand & know what's most important, respect what's most important & feel respected.

 

Continually share important things with children. Use words to describe the significant things to the family: religion, beauty, cultural ideas, behavior & attitudes. Share your family heritage with spoken words & writing. This helps carry ideas to another generation.

 

Families can create a non-threatening home environment by:

Listening encourages talking & talking lets everyone know what's important & valued.

 

We can teach kindness by being kind. We need to be firmer & kinder. Children need firm rule & guidance, stated clearly & with respect.

 

It isn't necessary to yell the rules.

We also need to teach our children the importance in respecting relationships. This means respecting children as people. Children learn respect by demonstrations & observations.

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Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.

 

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Surviving A Dysfunctional Family
10 Ways to Make Peace with the Past & Create a New Future
 
It is only with the heart that one can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye. 
 
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Our families are our first & most influential bonds, the foundation  for our personalities & our relationships with others. But too often those  interactions are destructive instead of nurturing.

From the moment our lives  begin, our physical helplessness makes us dependent on the people closest to us for survival & information & we learn how to behave so that we get what we need.

Professionals & lay people alike estimate that at least 90% of American families are dysfunctional. The distortion of our free expression for the sake of superficial  harmony creates patterns that spread thru our ideas & behavior to promote  personal, social & political dysfunction.

Are you confused about what you want & how to get it?

Do your emotions sometimes overwhelm you & make you reluctant to act?

Are you trapped in situations that drain your energy?

Do you find yourself struggling with the same problems over & over?

Are you afraid of people you admire & nice to people you can't stand?

What may be holding you back from building the life you dream of are unconscious attitudes & automatic behaviors you learned at an early age because you thought you needed them to survive. (As you may well have.)

The good news is that you don't have to be a victim of your upbringing. Although a dysfunctional past can crush your self-esteem, confuse you & distort your relationships, you can begin now to set yourself free from those patterns & create the life you want.

The distortion of your natural instincts can be reversed. You're a unique expression of the universal life force which has crystallized into your physical form to reflect your spirit's journey. No one else ever has or will affect the world as you do.

With every act, word or thought you're adding to the All -That - Is. Surviving a dysfunctional family doesn't necessarily mean getting along better with your relatives. You make peace with the past by using difficult situations, thoughts, emotions & people as opportunities to discover meaning & purpose in life.

You create a new future by drawing on your innate wisdom to help you overcome your obstacles, reawaken your dreams, realize your best self & discover within you the powerful urge to love in even the most trying circumstances that's been inside you all along, no matter how long you've been unaware of it.

The following simple principles can show you how to grow thru experience & transform your life & relationships. If you approach your problems as opportunities to discover meaning & purpose in your life, you can deepen your capacity to love in even the most difficult circumstances & make a difference both personally & in society.

Here are 10 ways to spark change in your life:

1. Set a New Course: Finding your own preferences

This new course is first an internal one, which paves the way for the external changes. If you're not satisfied with your life the way it is, begin by imagining that, no matter how bad or how good, it can get better.

Accept that what happens in your life is largely up to you & make it a priority to figure out how to create the life you want. Do what uplifts you. Allow yourself to feel excited about your possibilities. Take time every day to think about what you want.

Pay close attention to ideas & feelings that light you up. Great results may require great risks. Courage is accepting reality as it is & taking action to shape it into what you want. What you dedicate yourself to, you can create.

To jumpstart this process, give your brain a challenge by writing your full name 3 times with your non-dominant hand. Or take a new route or means of transportation to work. Savor the freedom in it & build on it, one small step at a time.

2. Trust Your Intuition: Accessing your inner wisdom

When you hear "that little voice," listen. Trust your gut feelings. Within you is a guidance system that announces itself thru your ideas & emotions.

Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Life can be confusing & some people do try to manipulate you in devious ways. If something doesn't feel right, it may mean that it's not for you. Wonder about why not & what you'd like instead.

Stand your ground. Believe in yourself in the face of criticism. No one else can tell you what you need or want. Have good intentions. Let your sense of integrity guide you. Don't second-guess yourself. All you can do is what you think is best at the moment.

Try completing the phrase "Wouldn't it be great if..." to break the pattern of negativity. Wouldn't it be great if you could live the life you dream of?

3. Look for a Silver Lining: Developing a positive attitude

How things appear is affected by how you look at them. Search for the positive feelings, feeling positive. Negative interpretations dull your energy & ability to cope. No matter how bad a situation seems, find something in it to appreciate.

Ask yourself, what good could come from this? What can I learn here? The answers you get are indicators of what to do next. You already have inside you the resources to build the life you want. You just have to learn how to use them.

4. Take A Step Back: Separating motivation from unconscious patterns

Be on the lookout for destructive habitual patterns. Noticing is the first step to breaking them. Don't fight them, just observe your thoughts & feelings. The deeper you can go, the more you unravel the stuck places in your heart & mind.

Bring spirit into the process by inviting metaphysical help in any form that works for you. Don't be influenced by others' opinions unless they inspire you. See criticism as an automatic response based in the other person's own fears. You don't have to convince anyone of your right to have your life as you want it.

5. Watch What You Say: Developing effective communication

Tell the truth. Be kind. Say good things, especially to yourself. A little goes a long way. Speak carefully. Emphasize the positive feelings, feeling positive. Be aware of your effect on others. Don't assume you're being understood.

When you realize you've made a mistake, apologize face to face if possible, so you can look the other person in the eye. Don't interrupt. Don't gossip. It wastes time you could be using to empower yourself. Don't give advice unless you're asked.

Choose your battles. If someone gets angry at you, stop doing whatever triggers them, no matter how right you think you are, until you can find a better way to communicate. Why make yourself a target?

Know when to shut up or decline to answer. Watch what you listen to. Don't dismiss different points of view. Don't listen just to what someone says - try to why they're saying it. Don't put up with disrespect, manipulation or negative thinking from anyone, including yourself.

6. Don't Keep Score: Setting your own standards

Life isn't about success or failure. Although both teach valuable lessons, realizing your potential is the core challenge. Adversity can develop strength. Even a losing battle can be the perfect challenge to show you your direction in life.

If a dream sours, let it go without judgment or feelings of remorse, feeling remorseful. Assume it's no longer relevant & look for new options. Accepting change brings peace of mind. It could be a stepping stone to a better situation.

7. No Victims, No Villians: Every situation brings exactly what you need to wake up

You aren't feeling responsible, feelings of responsibility for anyone else, nor are they for you. Relationships are like jigsaw puzzles. All the pieces fit together to create the whole. There's no guilt, no blame, no shame. Accept each moment as if you'd chosen it. Allow things to be as they are.

Holding a grudge drains your energy.  If someone hurts you, look for what you can learn from it. Forgiveness doesn't mean it was okay with  you; it means releasing the person's power to upset you. You may never forget, but letting go of your resentment is more productive. This goes double for forgiving yourself.

8. Meditate & Treat Yourself Well: Nourishing yourself

Make time to have fun & enjoy life. Laugh. Let yourself dream your fondest dreams. Celebrate your successes, big or small. Take walks in nature. Spend time alone. Exercise, rest & eat when you need to & drink lots of water.

Something as simple as a warm bath or short walk can do wonders in improving your perspective. Give yourself the opportunity to find inspiration. You're part of the universal creative energy. Spirit underlies everything.

You didn't come here to prove your worth or to find a problem & fix it. You came to express your talents & abilities, to realize your dreams. Meditation calms your conscious thinking mind & helps your access your inner wisdom.

Counting your breaths is the basic form, or you can silently repeat a soothing word or phrase (like "peace of mind" or "well-being"). When your mind wanders & it will, come back to your breath (or calming words.) Even 10 minutes a day can make a difference.

9. Get Outside Help: See beyond your blind spots

It helps to talk about your feelings, no matter how stupid, strange or awful they seem to you. An objective outsider can clear up confusion & liberate your creative energy.

Get counseling, either by yourself or with family members. Find someone you trust & feel compatible with & be willing to pour your heart out. Examine both sides of any issue.

Don't follow advice blindly, but do explore ideas that make sense to you to see what happens. Join a group of people with similar interests or circumstances to yours. Try art, music, or dance for fun &/or therapy.

Read self-help books. Most have at least some helpful nuggets & can reassure you that you're not alone. Don't expect The Answer, but serve yourself a smorgasbord of possibilities to take or leave as you like.

10. Move On: Graduate to living fully

Trying to change someone is futile, no matter how much you care, or how badly you think they need it. You have no control over what anyone else feels or thinks. Do what you can & do your best, but not at your own expense.

Respect your own boundaries. Your first commitment should be to yourself & to learning as much as possible from what happens to you. Only when you're at peace with yourself can you make a real contribution to anyone.

Just live your own truth, be honorable & intend the best outcome for everyone involved. Working things thru can be healing when there's mutual respect, but if you feel hopeless, scapegoated, threatened or frantic, retreat may be the only appropriate choice, at least for the moment.

It could be as basic as leaving the room briefly, or as extreme as ending the relationship or moving away. But be feeling open, feeling open minded to the possibility that they may surprise you. Your changes alter the context of the relationship & eventually the "problem" person may come to treat you differently. Pass along what you learn.

Summary: No matter what happens, trust that what you go thru will enlighten you. Change doesn't happen overnight. It comes little by little, more & more, each time you bring awareness to a problem.

Don't be discouraged. No one will be able to behave perfectly all the time. The most important thing is a dedication to trying something new & learning from your experience.

I wish you healing, faith & the courage to make your dreams come true.

If there must be trouble let it be in my day, that my child may have peace.

Thomas Paine

The mind is never right but when it is at peace within itself.

Lucius Annaeus Seneca

I am searching for that which every man seeks--peace and rest

Dante Alighieri

If you do not find peace in yourself, you will never find it anywhere else.

Paul Bendry

It takes more distress and poison to kill someone who has peace of mind and loves life.

Bernie Siegel, M.D.

Nowhere can man find a quieter or more untroubled retreat than in his own soul.

Marcus Aurelius

Making Peace With Your Parents
 
Dear Neil: My mother & I have never been close. I had to fend for myself as I was growing up & never got care & comfort from her on an emotional level.
 
She has the beginning of dementia, as well as physical problems. She requires a lot of watching over & supervision & I find myself putting more & more effort into her need for ever-increasing care.
 
I can’t say “She took such good care of me when I was little that I can now repay her.” In fact, I greatly resent all that's required of me today. I can’t stand to be in her presence or speak with her on the phone. It’s all about her. It’s always been about her & my hate for her is eating me up. Can you offer any advice?
 
Resentful in Boulder
 
Dear Boulder: There are several things you can do to make peace with your parents. Thoroughly explore the following questions, or ask your mother some of these questions if you can: 
  • What traumas did your mom & dad experience in their childhood? 

  • Was there sexual abuse, abandonment, betrayal, alcoholism or severe physical or emotional punishment in either of your parent’s childhoods? 

  • Did your mom & dad feel loved, valued & respected as children? 

  • How prepared were your parents to raise a family?

  • Did they have good relationship skills?

  • Did they know how to understand or resolve differences?

  • Had they grown up themselves?

  • What patterns from their childhoods did they repeat in parenting you?

  • Ask your mother what she would've done differently as a mom if she had it to do all over again.

  • What mistakes does she feel she made? 

Write down what you’d like to say to your parents about your childhood. Include in your writing the painful things that happened to you while growing up, the way you felt at those times & how those experiences have impacted your self-esteem, your trust of others, your intimate relationships, your parenting skills & your life.

Include the resentment you feel & why; what you’ve been wanting from them all these years; how well you feel your needs & emotions were tended to; whether you felt liked & loved & whether you were shamed or your self-esteem was attacked. 

What would you like your parents to say to you in response? Pretend for a moment that you're your mother/father. Write a letter to yourself, from them to you & say what you'd like for them to say to you.

We have the notion that our parents were born as adults. Frequently, people believe their parents were in charge of themselves when they had children, that they knew what they were doing & that they acted the ways they did toward their children intentionally.

We don’t know it when we’re young, but our parent’s neglectfulness, abusiveness, lack of affection & love isn’t about us. It’s about them not knowing how to tend to their own wounded emotions, not knowing how to love & nurture effectively & their lack of effective skills & lack of self-esteem.

Letting go of the past & the resentment you feel for your parents is not primarily for them, but for you, for your moment-to-moment aliveness & for your ability to love & to be loved.

The Red Cardinal: A Little Bird Comes to Teach Peace - By Judith Pennington

Last November, when the red cardinal laid siege to my home, I was amused to learn that he was caught up in the same illusion as so many people: seeing his own reflection in the window, he felt threatened by the "other" bird & attacked a mirror image of himself, bashing his beak & body against the glass every 2 or 3 seconds from dawn into the night. Thwack! Plop! Thunk!

From the start, I felt that the cardinal was an object lesson: if I couldn't be peaceful about the bird’s attack on my house, then how could I expect President Bush to ignore the potentially invasive presence of Saddam Hussein?

This notion amused me further, until the cardinal disturbed the sleep of our house guests over the Christmas & New Year’s holidays.

I began to question his presence & in a meditative writing, my still, small voice claimed that the cardinal, a gift of nature, would call me to beauty & deepen my understanding of peace & what comes to awaken one & all.

My daughters laughed at this, but I tested it & noticed that one daughter had merely been amused by the bird’s bizarre behavior, while the other daughter, now admonished to peacefulness, was calming her fury at the cardinal.

A better test came in early February, when I, desperately busy with work & family, suspended my meditation practice, lost my balance & soon wanted to wring the bird’s scrawny little neck. Where before I’d appreciated being awakened to the glory of red-streaked skies at dawn, now I caught myself banging my fist against the window glass & wanting to exterminate him with cheap perfume. A kind of chemical warfare, I ducked guiltily, thinking of George Bush & Saddam Hussein.

I know that the only road to peace is peace, yet just like the cardinal, I'd allowed fear & frustration to entangle me in the illusion of an enemy. I got the deeper message:

Could I not only tolerate but also love another soul who, as I'd just done, looked into this mirror of life, glimpsed an image of himself & attacked what was really an enemy within?

All winter, snowy weather has been our only respite from the cardinal. But a few days ago, despite a wailing blizzard, there he was again. I looked outside, called to nature by this persistent little apostle & watched billowy, wind-blown snowflakes spiral in every direction to become even more beautiful & I was reminded that our greatest lesson is to be peaceful & serene no matter how many storms blow our way. For it's only in this stillpoint of consciousness, free of anger, judgment & separation, that we're open to higher wisdom & able to perceive the truth of who we are & what we are becoming, as an ever-evolving collection of souls.

My joy in music & meditation shifted my energies back to their intuitive flow & I soon followed an inner urge to travel to Philadelphia & watch the gentle Lobsang Samten, a Tibetan monk, create a magnificent Wheel of Life mandala.

It was a perfect case of synchronicity. Patiently trickling out a few grains of sand at a time, Lobsang depicted the Buddhist philosopy of the 3 enemies within (fear, greed & anger) & how we & by extension, our government & our planet, can suffer terrible consequences time after time, or release these inner poisons thru prayer & meditation to reach the peace of enlightenment.

We know this isn't easy to do: the red cardinal, accustomed to violence, plunges against our windows day & night. Yet we also know that each thought of love lessens the cardinal’s hold on our reality & he comes less often to our windows. Love forms a protective field & no outer force can disturb this field of love, which grows & extends outward to encompass any disturbance & heal it.

On Feb. 9, this was proved by hundreds of thousands of Americans praying with author & peace troubadour James Twyman & 70 others in Israel to build peace in the Middle East. During this prayer vigil, a scientist using a biometer measured a baseline 6500 units of light emitted by people & physical places and watched it surge to a remarkable 9500 angstroms of light. The next day, according to statisticians, violence & crime in Israel decreased by 50 to 100%.

I see more clearly now than ever before, as my still, small voice instructs, that the only healer is love. If we can be loving, no matter what comes, we'll watch as peace rolls across the land like waves in the sea, washing one & all until all are One & healed & whole & free.

We'll do this if we wish to cultivate the earth’s blossoming & if the cardinal is to recognize that his only enemy is within.

Photographs of the red cardinal are on the Newsletter page of eaglelife.com.

Peace of Mind at The Workplace

Work brings together people of different characters & behavior & this often causes friction, resentment & stress. Sometimes the boss is too demanding, colleagues may be unpleasant, there might be too much work or the working conditions may not be comfortable.

The job may be boring, there might be competition or envy between the workers or the customers may be uncongenial or unfriendly. No wonder there is tension & stress.

These are some of the reasons why most people eagerly wait for their vacation. Their vacation provides them a way to get out of their daily life & find some peace.

The good news is that you don't have to wait for your vacation. You can learn to gain inner peace & enjoy every moment, right where you are. You can stop fretting & getting tense.

You can experience peace of mind & happiness wherever you are. When your mind is peaceful, the whole environment become peaceful.

Now you probably wonder what you can do to make this come true. I'm not going to talk here about meditation, though this is one of the best peace of mind tools. Below you'll find some simple & easy to perform tips & suggestions to experience inner peace at your workplace.

You may not succeed at the first attempts, but if you keep on performing these suggestions earnestly, you'll gradually begin to experience peace of mind. This peace will not only by inside you. It'll spill over & influence your whole environment.

1) If the people you meet talk in a loud voice, are impolite & tense, you’ll probably react & behave accordingly, hereby raising the level of tension.

On the other hand, if you stay calm, talk, act & react peacefully, people unconsciously emulate your behavior. You become a leading power, no matter what is your position at work.

2) Each day before you enter your workplace, repeat several times the following affirmation:


"My mind is peaceful throughout the whole day. I radiate peace around me. I talk peacefully, politely & with a smile. I choose to act peacefully”.

Say the affirmation with attention, faith & emotion.

3) Greet the people you meet at work.

4) Whenever you feel tension or anger building in you, take 3 deep slow breathes before any talking or action.

5) Become conscious of the words you think, say or write. Use only positive words.

6) Be polite.

7) Whenever you find yourself raising your voice, immediately lower it.

8) Talk in a medium pitch voice, not too loud or too low & don’t let the loudness or pitch of other people’s voices influence yours.

9) Several times during your workday find a quiet place. It may be at your desk, or if it isn't quiet enough there, it can be at the bathroom, an empty room or some other quiet spot. For several moments visualize a beautiful location that you love or some event that made you happy. Feel that you're there & enjoy the feelings that arise.

10) While working, concentrate on what you’re doing. Put there your full attention. This will keep your mind off disturbing thoughts.

11) Don’t waste your time & energy analyzing & thinking about people’s motives & behavior, but rather try to improve your actions.

12) Before speaking with someone whom you dislike or fear, or someone who makes you feel tense or angry, take a few deep breathes & visualize the 2 of you conversing peacefully & harmoniously.

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